Making waves

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I’ll do it.” I found myself with empty hands as my son took over, concern for my dodgy back making him move the heavy sack of soil. There will be many things he cannot help with as we begin to edge the pond with flowers, but this he could manage and, knowing that I would struggle, took matters into his own hands. It was a small thing, but it shows an awareness of the problems faced by others and a willingness to do something about it.

Just as the pebble that is tossed into a pool will create a wide circle of ripples, so do tiny acts of kindness and consideration add up, producing a cumulative effect far greater than the sum of its parts.

It is the small gestures that make a difference, just as it is from seemingly insignificant events or simplest of phrases from which understanding may be born. It doesn’t matter where you hear them, or read them… the right words may spark a train of thought that will unfold like a forest from scattered seed. It may take no more than a moment, or it may take a lifetime… sometimes the transmutation of knowledge into understanding is a very long process as it waits for more threads to settle into place… like the flower that may only grow in the shade of the forest floor, beneath a canopy of ancient oaks.

Everything we do or say is the cause of an effect. Good or bad, the consequences of every moment may be far-reaching. We never know just how far the story that begins in this moment may reach, nor do we know what other strands of life may be interwoven with them.

‘How can anything I do really make a difference?’ We have probably all asked ourselves that question when faced with global events and concerns. Alone, few of us carry enough weight on the world stage to change anything, yet we are all drops in an infinite ocean and, when we move together, the weight of the wave can carry all before it.

19 thoughts on “Making waves

  1. Such an important message, Sue. In so many ways, we’re helpless as this pandemic spreads across the world, but we have complete control over our attitudes and our willingness to engage others with kindness, compassion, and thoughtfulness. ❤

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  2. I think one of the big lessons I have learned recently, partly from having severe PTSD (the reason is not important) is that as long as we hold anger at those who hurt us, we are hurting ourselves, but when we forgive them in our minds, we are really giving ourselves the gift of forgiveness, for there is always the sense that we created it in some way, even if we are wounded in a war. Also, another thing Sue reminded me of is that going through the challenges we do in this life is crucial. Without them, we could never learn to have compassion for others, or how to help them in a situation where the help is needed. I always think of someone in a religious practice that has never been married trying to give wisdom or solve family issues. So don’t see only the things we may be experiencing right now in this world. Look for the things we can learn from this. So much we have forgotten. I am sure every single one of us can think of another former crisis we lived through that more or less affected the whole world as this has. I am thinking 9-11 is pretty fresh on my mind. We need to remember what we can in history of various countries so that we don’t lose the context for what is happening right now. I wrote about this on my blog, and I know it has helped me a lot to accept what is, move through it as best as we can and not forget to breathe, to see beauty as you and your son did planting the flowers together, and to remember to try to be kind to everyone else. Even in these times, I always talk kindly to people and hear what they have to say about it, and then I always tell them how I am 78 and have lived through all the biggies and then some, and here I am still standing, and I have no intention of giving up my life so young. One of the things I am doing to help myself is becoming more assertive with issues I have to deal with. And when one tactic to try to do what I need isn’t working, I am moving up to the next level of authority to deal with, and in doing what I am doing, I am not only helping my own self, but other elders who face many kinds of fraud and theft. And I am helping other women who have or fear any diagnosis of potential cancer by sharing how to take charge of our lives and our families regardless, and to be proactive in everything we do. I know absolutely that doing these things is important, just as it was important for Nick to show his wonderful mom that he is making progress in his own way. Thank you one and all for the good writing about our lives today, tomorrow, and for however long we all have. I am trying to make sure I listen to educational programs that are helpful to my mind and soul as I face my challenges every day. It sure is helpful to distance ourselves from the crazy inasmuch as we are able. Life is too precious to waste it, regardless of your physical, mental or emotional situation. Hey, we are all still here now, and when it is our time, it will be, and there is nothing to fear if we are living fully.

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  3. Most of us have lived through a number of pandemics and global crises before… and will hopefully be around to deal with the next one. But, although there is a huge amount of fear in the air at the moment, there are also so many people setting aside their own worries and stepping up to help others.
    When I got home from work today there were two slips of paper pushed through the letterbox… both from or backed by the pubs in my village, one offering a helpline for those who need shopping or medicines collecting, or just someone to talk to. The other offering a delivery service for hot meals from the pub’s kitchen.
    Even in such shadowed times, there are moments of brightness.

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