Seeds of reality

Every year, the garden catalogue drops through my letterbox and I start to daydream. I mentally design flowerbeds when my body is too busy to be doing any of the other things my mind ought to be doing, adding in all the plants I would love to grow for their beauty, all the fruit and vegetables I would tuck in between them, all the herbs I like to use for home remedies. It is a relaxing pastime that costs neither time nor energy, because I know from experience that the reality will never match the dream.

I have always grown things. This is the first place I’ve ever lived where I haven’t made a proper garden, but even so, there are plants on the windowsill and a little flower bed with a few rescued roses, herbs and wildflowers outside.

There are a good few reasons why the garden I miss so much has yet to materialise. Muscle power has depleted over the years, time and energy are in short supply, money even shorter. The main reason, though, is simply the terrain; the gardens of new-build homes seldom have much topsoil and the earth of my small patch is clay. It bakes hard and cracks wide, so before I can waft around planting things, I’ll need a lorry load of topsoil, a shovel and a wheelbarrow. And probably a man with a rotovator. So I look at it and it looks at me and we both hope I’ll manage to do something with it sometime soon.

I look back on past gardens in wonder. Some were huge, some tiny. I planned them in great detail in imagination, poring over plant and gardening catalogues, but none of them ever went according to the dream. Instead, I foraged, salvaged and recycled whatever showed up, fitting it in where I could. I needed paving, so when a house a mile away took up the old concrete drive, I carried it home, bit by bit in shopping bags, to make crazy paving. A fallen sandstone wall on wasteland scheduled for clearing came home the same way to edge flower beds, eight foot deep and fifty feet long. Dying plants and trees were rehomed and resuscitated, mingling with those raised from cuttings and seeds. Native flowers, often catechised as weeds, were allowed to fill the gaps. And, if it took a year or two more for things to start looking their best, well, gardening is all about patience.


What with one thing and another, though, I was never in one place long enough to watch a garden grow to its full maturity. It would be green and blooming, but the things that take years to grow into their beauty never did so before I had to move on. Sometimes I drive past old gardens. One of them is completely different. Not a stone or plant is the same… the incoming occupants put their own stamp on it, erasing anything I had created. Other gardens, all different now, still hold echoes of my dreams and I see trees I planted  as tiny saplings casting their shade over the lawns.

Whether or not any trace of my dreams survive really does not matter. They were dreams and I always knew they could never be wholly realised. Even so, the beauty of the gardens grew out of them. They were loved, gave food and pleasure, brought me and my sons into close contact with the earth and its creatures, taught us about the cycle of life and the interdependence of all things, so neither the dreams, nor the work that went into those gardens was wasted.

That, I believe, is true of all dreams, no matter how far out of reach they may seem, no matter how implausible. Their value is first and foremost in the dreaming of them. All great advances, all new ideas, first come into being within the imagination. Some will make their way through into the levels of reality with which we are familiar, others may not, or at least, not in the way we imagined them. But none of these ideas are ever wasted and many will linger as an intangible ‘something in the air’, waiting for the moment and the circumstances in which they can manifest, through the agency of dreamers.

Daydreaming can help us process information, exploring it in ways we can use  effectively in ‘real life’. It hones creativity, increases empathy by letting us put ourselves in situations we might not otherwise encounter, helps memory and, as an added bonus, lowers blood pressure. It is good for us, can be the call to physical action, and can add something to the sum of human experience in an act of pure creation.

“ I have a dream,” said Dr Martin Luther King. “I hope some day you’ll join us,” sang John Lennon. Daydreams are acts of creative imagination, and from such dreams do we sow the seeds of reality.

41 thoughts on “Seeds of reality

  1. I smiled when you said your yard looks at you and you look at it 🙂
    Have you tried much in the way of container gardening? Takes a bit more car so far as watering, but is definitely easier on the back and can still bring joy. ❤

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    1. I’m away too often for containers to thrive here, sadly. I did try a few,but they didn’t survive the first absence. in summer…and the dog has a passion fo plant pots and empties them 😉

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  2. You have perfectly described both our terrain and my gardening issues. The two small garden we have we yes, a truckload of topsoil with my son the gardener. Otherwise, it’s all rocks and roots … and a serious shortage of sunshine, which it turns out, makes gardening a lot more difficult. Very limiting, not having sun once the trees have leaves. And now, with Duke able to leap the fence whenever he feels like it, I can only imagine the damage he is going to do to the garden that once thrived. It still did, at least for about two months in the summer … but I’m getting less and less able to manage the work and I am sure the Duke is going to “help” me.

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  3. Written with a smile, as usual….How hard we all try – well,most of us – to be ‘good’ wives/mums/cooks/gardeners/carers/nurses/’whatever’…(the ‘whatever’ involving everything from working in an office/shop/school/hospital etc.,) It seems to be mostly down to lack of enough money/time that we can’t do it ALL! More’s the pity. Dreams are the next best thing though. Mostly because of moving so much….I never did manage to get the garden EXACTLY how I saw it in my mind’s eye, but came pretty close on one occasion. Trouble was, my dear dad was as near to being the perfect gardener as you can imagine, and was some act to follow! Our Spanish ‘garden’ is tiled and tiny but at least we have flowering pots on the patio and constantly flowering cerise and mauve Bougainvillea to greet us each day. Hugs xx

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  4. I gave up on our jungle last year. It was getting far stronger than I and nothing I did made any difference. Reading your post today, expecting the usual surge of ‘let me get out and there and dabble’, I realised what had happened. I had stopped dreaming of those seeds, flowers and all things garden.. Whether this was the intense competition from the jungle, or my concentrating on the writing, but you have made me realise that I want to dream again.
    So, thank you, Sue!


          1. We’ve protected our new plants by coverng them with large pots. The roses are under the window in theirs. The wind is picking up here, but we have more rain rather than snow forecast here.


  5. Thank you. I needed to read this. And now, I’m stealing the phrase Agency of Dreamers and creating a staff of creative thinkers who solve mysteries in their enhanced sleep.


  6. Like you, I’ve realized that real gardens never turn out like those in the gardener’s dreams, plans, and intentions. I still have the detailed planting diagrams I made when I started gardening here 26 years ago. They make me smile. But the garden, with rooty, sandy soil, too much shade, increasingly dry summers, and a predominance of tough, almost weedy plants, has enough moments of beauty that are within touching distance of the envisioned ideal.


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