Out of control

heather 2015 derbyshire, higger tor, beeley circle, edensor, bak 038The clock is ticking… there is far too much to do and never enough time. That’s the way things seem to be these days, with everyone keeping an eye on the clock and a tight rein on deadlines. We all have them, often hidden…whether it is the meal you need to have ready on time, the kids to pick up from school or the dental appointment you have to squeeze in after work. Deadlines come in all shapes and sizes and half the time we don’t even realise they are there. We call it routine and recognise the benefits of having a rhythm to our days that allows us to get through them with some modicum of reliability.

It can be comforting to know what is expected of you at any given moment… it is a safe place to be, in an odd sort of way and our tendency is to fill the time available with what we know needs to be done, balanced with what we actually want to do. Even leisure time is pretty much scheduled… an evening with friends, a couple of hours feet up in front of the TV… these things take on a regularity that lets us know where we are.

The more overt type of deadline can be a spur for many people; that last minute completion fuelled by adrenaline has a familiarity and carries a sense of achievement… as well as relief. We seem to have transferred our skills as hunter-gatherers to our modern way of life… hunting at our work, chasing the prey of success, either personal or corporate, and gathering moments of leisure like ripe fruits to savour.

As we squeeze more and more into our waking hours, the quality of leisure has entered a strange land of extremes where many feel they have to be seen to be enjoying themselves… always ‘doing’… Some take up hobbies they find relaxing, whilst yet others simply switch off and use the white noise of electronic media, to relax. We are, when you think about it, always trying to control how our days unfold.

How many of us simply… stop doing. Just sit, not furiously thinking about the next problem to be solved or task to do… but just sit and let our thoughts meander where they will, our hands unoccupied, without feeling any pressure or guilt at taking time out? Time to not do, just to be?

For all of us such time has real benefits in terms of relaxation and freedom from the stressors of daily life. It is a time when inspiration comes unbidden, a place where realisations can swirl to the forefront of the mind. It is an essential time of inner silence, where that ‘still, small voice’ can whisper to a consciousness ready to listen. Such moments are the times between time, a place where we simply open the doors and leave space for something greater than we to come in.

34 thoughts on “Out of control

  1. Sue, there have been, in my life, many times when I have just downed tools, sat, and watched the world ( or Nature) go by. Unfortunately, this year, I have not been able to do this. Others have controlled my life this year, and it feels as though I am marching in quicksand. Getting nowhere, trying desparately to hokd what little ground I have, trying not to slip backwards. I concur with all of the above. Think I am just about holding my ground just now, but I feel the earthly movements hovering just on the horizon.

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    1. Being able to down tools and be still should never have to be a luxury… but it is for so many of us in this busy world with so many demands on our days… I hope you get chance to just breathe, Evelyn x


  2. I am doing this a lot lately, but not by choice. Growing old is not what I thought it would be, and is turning out to be more than a little confusing. Just when I want to run down the road just to get away from it all, my brain takes a sabatical. And very welcome it is too. Not getting me anywhere productive, but my sanity is more than grateful…

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  3. Well, aren’t we all? Friends or people always asking me how did I do it with all the 7 kids and a husband? Do I have time for myself at all? Amazingly (thankfully), yes I do. Difficult, but I still do have the time for the woods, especially.
    I cannot live without the woods! 🙂


      1. Yes, I agree with you there.
        I live near the woods and I really love the isolation. Far from the commotion of a city or even town – and it is safer for kids to play outside without me worrying any vehicle came by all the time! 😛


  4. Dont do this enough… if ever, these days! Only when hovering between sleeping and waking, the rest of the time I’m always doing something. I dont think we realise that.


      1. I find it very hard to clear my mind, I suppose regular practic helps. Not so much of a problem when I’m having Reiki, though, it relaxes me like nothing else, even massage! 😁


  5. Reblogged this on graemecummingdotnet and commented:
    It’s regularly commented on at home, but I’m not very good at sitting still. As soon as my meal’s over, I want to get on and do something. Even if I’ve been sitting watching TV for a while, unless it’s something that’s really engaged me, I start getting restless. Whether it’s the environment I was brought up in or – more likely these days – a growing awareness of my mortality, I feel the urge to get on and do things. But I am aware that sometimes that’s just not enough….


  6. Meditation really changed things for me, and I find it much easier to relax now. That being said, my regular practice has suffered in recent times – darn time thieves! Although my daily walk has ended up being quite a meditative space – I just let my mind wander, as my feet do.


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